In Mosiah 19, the concept of forgiveness is covert, meaning it is not explicitly stated. We can infer, that in order for King Noah’s men to repent, they were required to ask for forgiveness from their wives and children.
Contrary to 19, forgiveness is overtly mentioned in Mosiah 20. It is clear that the priests of King Noah, the men who stayed for fear of their own lives, rather than return to their families, made their decision out of shame and pride. In verse 25, King Limhi “went forth without arms to meet the Lamanites.” He bowed before them and plead in behalf of his people.
Contention is a wall, or way of “putting up arms,” which requires humility to break down and move past. Resolving a conflict requires letting the arms down, which involves listening, letting someone else speak their feelings. On the other hand, sometimes we’re the ones who need to be listened to, but we aren’t given the opportunity to speak. This requires quiet recognition, and leadership.
Limhi was a great leader for his people. He was their advocate with the King of the Lamanites and he plead their cause. Just as Christ pleads our cause with the Father. In the times when we are not trusted, or respected correctly, it is our duty to patiently act in quiet dignity and trust that our example will shine through. Instead of reaching outward with frustration to the other person, we have to reach up to Heavenly Father, not out.
Even though King Limhi, nor his people, were in the wrong, he was understanding and didn’t act with hostility. I believe it is our duty to seek understanding and peace with God so we can do the same towards those we find fault with, or those who find fault with us.